So what is a newly single workaholic lady to do?
Unfortunately break-ups are part of life. You cannot really avoid it, but if you are blessed you have a support system that lightens your load.
I am grateful for my amazing friends and a support system that will pick me up and dust me off in any situation. This was the same with my latest break-up.
A friend in a similar position sent me a WhatsApp message, which in hindsight I think was a joke, nevertheless this took me on an exciting journey.
The message she sent simply stated that I should download Tinder, and gave me a quick overview of what Tinder is. She explained that it is an application that puts you into contact with other Tinder users in your area. So basically a dating application.
The way I would explain Tinder to someone is that it is a dating-app that finds its foundation on the idea of ‘love at first sight’. You like or dislike someone based on their looks, a short biography (if they entered anything) and interests you might have in common.
The application links with your Facebook account, and shares information with Tinder. This is where the information (interests or common friends) comes from.
The pages you have liked will form part of your interests.
Tinder does not show up on your Facebook, so don’t worry too much, you can still keep this sneaky part of you going without broadcasting it to the world.
What is also important to mention here is you only see friends or interests if you have these in common. So other Tinder users will not be able to see all your friends or likes.
Tinder is also on a first name basis, and this makes Facebook stalking a little more difficult.
I have never tried anything like this and I would usually be very sceptical. I am however happy to say that I have broken out of my comfort zone, even if it is only a small step.
I think the reason I took the leap of faith was because I was in the right frame of mind, I was ready for an adventure and to do something that I would not have dared before.
I am sure that people use Tinder for a lot of different reasons, and I am also very glad that I have not been shocked too much.
I would recommend it to anyone in the same position I am: if you want to get back your self-confidence, want to break out of old habits, or just want to try something new. Then take that leap of faith. Worst case scenario, you don’t like it, then just delete your account.
I have had a few adventures thus far, some amazing, others borderline embarrassing, but all in the name of science right?